The world of Toxic Positivity: The lies, signs, differences and final thought

  Toxic positivity

The new world is caught up in a new type of culture which is positive vibes only which refer to the denial of what is a part of human which is the negative emotions. You must not be sad because sadness is one of the negative emotions which means you are being negative. One of the myths is that you must stay positive all the time because it will give you a positive and happy life.

Another example is from a person who is feeling deep loneliness but completely ignores that fact instead of facing it because he/she has to stay positive.

The lies

Toxic positivity culture is preached by a lot of pyramid scheme companies gurus, manipulating the newly recruited members into thinking they can do anything, and the key is to be positive. You have to stay positive in all situations, ignore all the negative feelings and you will have a successful, positive, and happy life and if things didn't work out for you it's not their fault, it's yours because you weren't positive enough. 

Many people fall a victim to these kinds of thoughts and start ignoring one of life's facts which is no matter who you are or where you are you will go through bad and good days, both negative and positive emotions will hit you.

You learn life lessons from bad days and learn more about yourself from negative emotions. There's no problem with positivity but there's a fine line between positivity and toxic positivity. Toxic positivity is being positive for the sake of positivity not for having a better outcome.

What are the signs of toxic positivity? 

1. Feeling guilty about negative emotions

You see people posting photos of themselves happy and enjoying life, but the truth is that most of them are faking their lifestyle. 

2. Shaming others when they don't have a positive attitude

One of the worst things is telling others to be positive when it isn't helpful. You can't tell someone who lost his/her loved one to be positive and pretend like everything is okay when the reality is painful. In such times we need someone who can listen, stay, and let us face such harsh reality instead of escaping it.

3. Disguising your emotions

Ignoring what is going on (that may be a negative emotion happening for a good reason) and replacing it with a smile and pretending it isn't happening is escaping reality. But though some people don't have those whom they can express their feelings they can express it to themselves. Negative emotions are uncomfortable, ignoring them is denying a part of reality.

The major difference between healthy positivity and toxic positivity

There are many difference between toxic positivity and healthy positivity but the major one is: healthy positivity addresses an emotion whether it's negative or positive and tries to deal with it in a way that makes the other person feels better while toxic positivity shut up negative emotions, shame the person who's dealing with it and make others feel guilty for feeling that way.

Final thought 

There's no problem with being positive and it's good to be positive in negative situations and seeking solutions for problems rather than thinking about the problem. The problem arises when you impose positivity on a person dealing with hard emotions rather than listening to them. If a heartbroken person returns from his work tired, sad, and frustrated telling them that they have to stay positive will do them more harm than helping them. Listening and validating other's emotions rather than shaming and making them feel guilty is the solution for such situations.